FORGIVENESS

FORGIVENESS

 Forgiveness is a word that echoes through the annals of scripture and resonates within the hearts of men. Forgiveness is a fundamental part of Christianity, reflecting the boundless grace that God extends to us; yet, many seem to struggle with this one thing perhaps more than most. But what does it truly mean to forgive? And how do we navigate the complexities of forgiveness, especially when hurt runs deep and justice seems so elusive? The answer lies in the very heart of the Gospel. God's love for us is demonstrated in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us (Romans 5:8). This is the standard to which we are called, even when it comes to forgiveness.

 Ephesians 4:32 instructs us, "And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you." This verse lays the foundation: our forgiveness should mirror God's. Think of the magnitude of His forgiveness – the complete, unmerited pardon for our sins, paid for by the sacrifice of His Son. This is the standard to which we are called, even when it comes to forgiveness.

 Forgiveness is a deliberate decision from one’s mind. It is a conscious choice, not merely a feeling that washes over us. It is a commitment to release the emotions that often cloud our judgment and can easily consume us, such as bitterness, anger, resentment, and the desire for retribution. "For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins." (Matthew 6:14-15). Forgiveness is a release of the debt caused by an offense and a willingness to “let go” of the offense, a “moving on,” so to speak. Though often described as "moving on," forgiveness is not about forgetting. It's about releasing the emotional burden of the offense and “moving on” with your life.

 Forgiveness, for Christians, is not excusing sin or pretending harm didn't occur. It is the act of releasing our right to vengeance, even while acknowledging the reality of the pain and consequences. This understanding is essential when considering the relationship between forgiveness and justice, as they are not mutually exclusive. Instead, they work together. We can forgive others while seeking truth and holding them accountable. Justice brings consequences, and forgiveness sets us free from the burden of resentment.

 Having defined forgiveness, it is now clear that one can forgive even when the offender hasn't asked. Our forgiveness doesn't negate justice or restore faithfulness; only Christ can do that. The idea that forgiveness requires an apology is flawed. Our act of forgiving doesn't erase the offense. Forgiveness is often a process of healing, requiring time, prayer, and support. It involves confronting the pain, acknowledging the wound, and seeking God's strength. Ultimately, forgiveness is an act of mercy, a testament to Christ's transforming love, made possible by grace. It leads to freedom, healing, renewed relationships, and a deeper understanding of the grace extended to us. Let us, therefore, strive to forgive as we have been forgiven.

                                                                                                ~Casey Clement

 >PS. Each day this week, reflect upon a time when you have been wronged and pray for the one who offended you.  If you still have feelings of bitterness, pray to God that He relieve you of that negative emotion, forgive, and if possible, do something kind for them.